…. But Are Too Afraid to Ask
Boudoir Photography is getting a much larger press these days but a lot of people do not know what goes on behind the scenes. You might be a little shy or nervous and don’t know how to find out more. You might be looking to have boudoir images for yourself or as a gift for someone else, or you’re just curious! To help you out, I’ve put together this little guide to give you a sneak peek behind the scenes so you can find out everything you wanted to know about boudoir photography but are too afraid to ask.
What Is Boudoir Photography Really?
“Boudoir” is taken from a French word that, in the late 1700s, meant to sulk. This was the woman’s bedroom or salon where a lady used to retire to when they wished to be alone. Over time, and in a number of literary works, this became linked to an intimate setting where women could ‘frolic or be scandalous’.
Today, a boudoir is where a woman can feel sensual, romantic, sexy or even a little bit naughty. Boudoir photography is the art of capturing all of these feelings.
Who Has Boudoir Photographs Taken?
There are a variety of reasons and motivations for trying boudoir photography. It doesn’t matter what size, shape or age you are. Any woman is welcome. The short answer is anyone and everyone has boudoir photographs taken!
Why would I want Boudoir Photographs?
There are so many reasons to have boudoir photographs taken. Here are a few reasons you might want a photo shoot:
• Valentine’s Day Gift
Have you run out of ideas? What could be a better gift for your partner than some sexy shots of you? Boudoir photographs make the perfect Valentine’s gift.
• Wedding Day Gift
Bridal boudoir photo shoots are an excellent way of celebrating your special day. They also make a great gift for the groom as a fun and intimate reminder of your promises together.
• Confidence Boost
This might sound counter-intuitive, but boudoir photo shoots are an excellent way to improve your self-esteem. Everything about the photo shoot is about you, it’s an excuse to pamper yourself and to hear lots of wonderful things about your body – and then see the reality of that in print!
• An already confident woman who wants some photographs for her own collection.
Maybe you already know how gorgeous you are and just want to document it, for yourself or to show others!
• It’s fun!
You will have fun during the shoot. It’s as simple as that.
For a longer list, check out my blog post Unleash the inner you with a boudoir photo shoot.
Do I Have to Get Naked?
The short answer to this is – NO!
My clients’ priorities are the paramount importance. This means you set your boundaries and we stick to them. If you just want to have lingerie shots or even implied nude, then we follow your lead. We will not encourage or force you to go beyond what you are comfortable with.
If you do want to try out some partial or fully nude poses, we will be happy to accommodate your wishes. After all, this is your shoot. Boudoir is very much a sensual photographic style and we can keep the mystique of this without taking off clothing.
If I am Stripping Off Who Will See Me?
I have a very small team in order to keep the photo shoot fun and intimate. At your shoot, it will be me and a makeup artist/stylist. Nobody else will see you – unless you bring a friend! I keep my studio locked, so we won’t have any unexpected visitors.
Feel free to bring a friend with you to make you more comfortable, I just need to know in advance. I don’t recommend bringing your partner as I have found that people are then less comfortable in front of the camera when their partner is watching.
Do I Bring My Own Outfits?
Before your shoot, we will have a discussion about any items you might want to bring with you. It’s a good idea to bring a range with you as we can then discuss which will work on the day for the looks we’re going for.
Here are some examples of things you may want to consider bringing:
- Lingerie set(s) – these don’t have to all be black!
- A man’s white shirt – this can make a super sexy photograph
- Nightwear – probably not your winter fleecy jammies!
- Corsets – these can be boned or more of a fashion corset. If you are going to try a boned corset, it’s best to try it out beforehand so that you’re used to wearing it
- Stockings and suspenders – you could try different types of stockings e.g. sheer black or fishnets, holdups and those that require a suspender belt. It’s amazing how toned a pair of fishnet stockings can make your legs look. We do have some stockings at the studio if you’re not sure what look to go for.
- High heels – bring your favourite high heel shoes or boot with you. These will give you great posture and make your legs appear longer and leaner.
- Jewellery – if you have a favourite signature piece this could really complete your look
We keep a range of items at the studio for you to try, including slips, corsets, jewellery as well as feathers, masks, flowers and hats. You might feel more comfortable with your own items, but you’re more than welcome to have fun with ours as well!
What Sort of Grooming Prep Should I Do Before My Shoot?
If you wish to be ‘au naturale’ then that is perfectly fine. However, if you want a smooth look then you will need to wax or shave those areas before the shoot. We advise having this done a couple of days in advance so that any redness or reaction has a chance to subside.
If you regularly get your eyebrows plucked and shaped then again, this should be done a couple of days in advance to give any redness a chance to subside. . If there is still redness on the day of your shoot, we can cover this with makeup.
You may also want a manicure and pedicure. You can have the most sensual outfit on but if your nail polish is chipped and your nails are torn then it will alter the fantasy image that has been created. Why not use the boudoir photo shoot as an excuse for an all over pampering session?
Can I Bring Alcohol?
If you want to bring some alcohol to relax then we are happy for you to do that. However, please do not drink too excessively. The idea is to relax, not to get completely sloshed as that will ruin the photographs. We will offer you a glass of wine or champagne when you arrive anyhow.
You will also be able to have something to eat – chocolate or fruit (or even chocolate-covered fruit!). We aim to create a fun and relaxed atmosphere. We will have music playing to help set the mood and our main focus is for you to be having a good time even before you get in front of the camera.
What Happens When I Arrive?
On arrival, we will offer you a glass of wine or champagne and some nibbles. We will then introduce you to our makeup artist/stylist and we will all chat and discuss the clothing and any props that you have brought with you.
We will talk about the makeup and hair looks that you might want and which will work with the clothing choices. I will also make suggestions if I think we can improve on the outfits with items from the studio.
Once you are relaxed and the music is playing you will then hit the makeover chair where our makeup artist will work on the looks that you want. This will take about an hour, so use this time to chat, relax and drink your wine. Makeup for photography does need to be a little more dramatic than you usually wear so that it will show up in the photographs.
After the makeup chair, you are now ready for your first outfit and to get in front of the camera! Don’t worry, this is painless.
I Have Never Posed Before
We work with different types of people. Whether you’re used to posing or have never done it before, this isn’t a problem. Some people are naturals in front of the camera and don’t need much coaching. But for the majority of women, posing for a boudoir shoot is a completely different experience from anything you’ve done before.
Don’t worry, we are used to working and coaching people through the poses. I will often show how to do the pose by doing it myself – this is always good for a laugh! Sometimes the pose needs to be exaggerated to get the effect showing up on camera.
We will use a variety of props and we have chairs and a bed to recline over. Trust me, we will end up having a lot of fun.
I Don’t Like My Boobs, Bum, Legs, etc.
A lot of women feel self-conscious about at least one part of their body. Whether it is your boobs, bum, legs or even arms and shoulders. During our initial chat, we will discuss all of this with you. We want to know what you think your best features are and which you wish to hide or cover up a little more. Don’t forget, we want you to feel comfortable so that we can make you look great!
During our shoot, we will then enhance your best features and showcase those which will also draw focus away from those you feel less comfortable with. We can also use a number of props such as scarves, feathers and fans to camouflage problem areas.
We use lighting to sculpt your body and show poses that will bring out the features you love.
What Happens After the Shoot?
We plan to have at least 30-50 of the best shots from the shoot sent for you to look at within a week. We will let you know after the shoot how you can access these. All of these shots will be untouched and watermarked if being viewed online. Otherwise, you can come back to our studio for an in-person session to view all the best shots without watermarks.
From there, you can choose the photographs which you want to have edited. And you can choose how you want these to be displayed. I have a wide range of products for you to choose, from wall art through to boxed prints, albums and even wall art. It is up to you what you decide to choose.
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